Hints and Tips on How to Meet New People by Elizabeth Rose Pin 7430

If you are looking for a new partner, it is tricky these days, especially with Covid stopping many social events. However, things are beginning to relax so bear this in mind.

Look at your own interests first and what you like doing.

For instance, you might like reading. Most Libraries have a book club, which is usually free. They also hold events, talks and day classes at very reasonable prices.

You may like some kind of craft-work, look at your local council, community, college and schools as they usually hold a variety of interests.

If you like exercise there are local Gyms but if you can, go to one with a café so that you can sit and chat and talk to others. Go to the classes they have too, not just go on the equipment and you will soon start conversations.

There are rambling groups that you could join and if you like swimming, there are swimming times where adults only attend. If you go regularly you can soon get talking and widen your social life.

There is a lot out there if you know where to look.

For retired or semi-retired people, men and women, the U3A is very good. It stands for Universe of the Third Age, the last third of your life!! There are over a thousand of these clubs in the UK.

It is a club not a dating agency, although you may well meet someone there. It is reasonably priced, about £18 per year, this varies from club to club but only by a little.

The format is usually business of the day first, where people explain what is on offer, for example a day out to Whitby and the cost and the details.

Then there is usually a speaker for an hour, which could be on any subject from Tudor History to Bird Watching.

There are often about thirty interest groups which are held once a month that you can attend as well. These interest groups can be on anything like a lunch group, rambling group, poetry, tenpin bowling and so on.

Most details are on the web sites. It is a great way to increase your social life.

If you want to look specifically for a partner, then of course there are the dating sites.

You could Google the best ten, however it is better to pay for the site, although you could try the free ones first. But in my experience of doing readings the majority of people find if you pay you tend to get more genuine people.

It would be better if you gave a nick name at first, to prospective dates, and never give your real name and your e-mail as it is possible for them to hack into your bank. I have seen it done.

Of course, when meeting someone for the first time it would be better to take precautions, meet in day light, just perhaps for coffee, if you meet for the whole evening it could be boring and it can be awkward if you want to get away. Also ask a friend or relative to ring you when you first meet. You then have an excuse to leave if you want.

Pubs and nightclubs are ideal for the younger element, and some older!! But the majority of people will not meet a partner this way.

If you Google holidays you will see plenty of holidays for solo people. Also travel brochures advertise solo holidays.

Cruises are also a good way to make new friends.

There are solo cabins, and on board there are solo coffee mornings, where passengers can get to know each other and arrange to meet in groups.

Often they provide a solo afternoon tea for people to chat.

For those you have had bereavement, Cruse is available and the people there will be in the same boat as yourself.

So basically, to start your journey, look at your own interests, then see if there are any interest groups that you can join. If there is not an interest group, maybe you could start one yourself.

Remember doors open doors, you may join a lunch group and meet new friends but then you may also meet a new partner too.

So it will make you feel a lot better increasing your social life and widening your interests even if you don’t meet Mr or Mrs Right immediately.

After all it is only a matter of time before you do.

 

 

 

How to Deal with Someone who Blows Hot and Cold in a Relationship – By Elizabeth Rose PIN 7430

Blowing hot and cold in a relationship can be sign of many things, but mostly that the person wants the control. They also do not want to get hurt.

It is so upsetting if this happens to you especially if they have been very keen, which they usually have been, as they want to be intimate with you. The important thing is to find out whether he is using you.

Sometimes they pull away because they feel that they cannot and never could make you happy. You could just ignore it for a while and see if things change.

You could ask them straight out why they are behaving this way. If they deny it and say that they don’t know what you are talking about then you know that you are in trouble.

He or she is probably immature emotionally and you will have to either finish it, or put up with the situation, which will probably never improve.

Often, they behave this way because they have been hurt in the past.

Ask yourself do you want to get involved with someone who is so unpredictable and lacking empathy.

They obviously just want the power over you, and you will just never be compatible.

They will also confuse you and make you unhappy.

So, your only choice is to walk away.

Why Is My Boyfriend Hot And Cold With Me? by Elizabeth Rose PIN 7430

There are many reasons why a new boyfriend may blow hot and cold.

If the relationship is fairly new, then he might not know what his feelings are.

He may even feel a bit nervous, especially if he has recently come out of a relationship himself.

He may be just messing you about because he does not know what he wants.

Of course, he may be playing the field and have one or two others on the go until he makes his mind up who he wants.

One thing is for sure if he keeps coming back then there is some attraction and he does like you, but what you want to know is to what extent and will it last.

Sometimes he just wants to play it cool and see how you react.

Some just carry on though, seeing others and playing hot and cold all their lives, because at the end of the day they do not really want to commit.

So, it is not your fault, they would be same with anyone else.

Other’s use is as a strategy, playing mind games to make you keener.

It is a way a man has power over you and the relationship.

Some men use it as a way to make you contact them and hope that you do the running.

Sometimes a lot is going on in his life that he has to deal with, so you will have to give him time to work things out, as you will not be his priority.

Some men panic when feelings start to develop between you, and they draw back to see how they feel about the relationship and the future of it.

It can be very frustrating and upsetting when a man behaves like this in a relationship.

I will give you some tips next month on how to deal with someone who behaves like this.